How to change when you’re an overthinker and perfectionist - common barriers and how to get around them.

How did attachment influence your perfectionism? To make sense of “my needs are not met consistently,” your brain came up with the idea – ah, I must not be good enough, there must be something wrong with me. I know! I’ll become perfect!

There is always a next step, a new place to prove yourself, a way to show yourself you have worth. High performance is desirable; however, the difference is that the high performer without perfectionism goes to bed at night aware of their value beyond their successes.

Life is hard enough. You need an internal best friend, not an opponent. Here’s how to get one.

In present day, we have access at our fingertips to infinite images– people of every shape, colour, size, culture, etc. What is a woman to do?

Why does this inner critic exist? What is it doing in your head besides torturing you? We can imagine the inner critic as an over-tuned, too effective part of the threat defense system.

Self-care can be problematic for person with perfectionism. Why? First, and perhaps most obvious, your self-care has to be perfect, too…

The two major fallacies of self-care:

(a) Self-care needs a separate time from the rest of the daily grind; and

(b) Self-care is only needed when you are falling apart.